Flax Fail

Flax Fail

Ok, I knew about the curse of a boyfriend sweater, I read scary stories of knitters who ventured on this dangerous path of making something for their guys, I read dozens of times of “I’m never going to knit anything for him. Ever. Again.”ย But I was naive and hoped that the curse would somehow escape me. No, didn’t happen.

My Flax was flying off the needles so fast, that at the end it crashed really hard. I was at the point of ribbing already when I decided to try the sweater on my husband and check the length. The length was perfect, the shoulders were perfect, everything was perfect. For me. And he said something like that: “It’s really nice, but can you remove a couple of inches here and there, I want it more fitting and here can you change…” He stopped here, because my face said it all. Boy, was I angry. No, I cannot remove a couple of inches here and there, because in order to do that I have to rip out 80% of the sweater. No, I cannot change this or that here because I showed you the pattern, you said you liked it and I made it the way it is. So deal with it. And off I went.

He was surprised at the very least. I almost never get angry. I remember at the closure ceremony at school, one of the most mischievous guys in our classroom said: “Alina is the most patient person in the world” ๐Ÿ™‚ I don’t know what you have to do to kick me out of my comfort zone.ย Well, turned out a rejected sweater that I put days into did the job. Two minutes later I cooled down. So, what to do with the sweater? Of course, I know that he will wear it the way I made it and be fine with it. But the idea of giving somebody a hand knit sweater made from lovely Peruvian wool and knowing that it wasn’t exactly how he liked it is just unbearable for me. Maybe he can deal with it, I can’t. So, my Flax from this WIP stage…

Hand knit sweater


…came to this one.

yarn ball

Yep, ripped it out entirely. This is how knitter’s pain looks like.ย Now, the question – should I throw it at him?!!

yarn ball

Good thing I am a process knitter, just like a product knitter. A ripped sweater means only one thing – more knitting time exploring a new construction, touching delicious wool and enjoying the clicking of my needles. I am going down with sizing and if he doesn’t like it again, I am wearing it. Period.

Oh, and one more thing –ย “I’m never going to knit anything for him. Ever. Again.” Please, remind me of this post if he ever asks me to make something for him again.

Happy Sunday!


By | 2015-10-03T15:26:15+00:00 October 4th, 2015|Knitting, Work in Progress|26 Comments


  1. Nicky October 4, 2015 at 9:53 am - Reply

    This post is so hysterical to me … I laughed so much because I’ve had the same thing happen. Not for a sweater but for a hat and I too was tempted to throw the yarn at him after I ripped it out.
    But seriously though, I totally get how you feel; I wouldn’t want to gift something to someone knowing that although they’ll use it it wasn’t exactly what they wanted.

    • Alina October 4, 2015 at 6:03 pm - Reply

      This is exactly what gave me a push to start again ๐Ÿ™‚ He will wear it, but I will always know that it’s not what he was looking for!

  2. Andrea @ This Knitted Lfe October 4, 2015 at 9:55 am - Reply

    oh dear. I knit my husband a couple of hats. That he never wore even once. This disqualifies him from receiving any future hand knits. Humph.

    • Alina October 4, 2015 at 6:04 pm - Reply

      Ok, I am officially announcing my husband’s disqualification from hand knits after Flax #2 is finished!

  3. Corinne October 4, 2015 at 10:19 am - Reply

    Awww, I am so sorry, but your post just made me smile (and I am really in need of a smile right now, the last few days have been pretty shitty). I am sorry that you had to rip it back and I am kind of awed that you did. I might be in the same boat not to far in the future, because I am currently knitting a sweater for my ex husband and he might react just the same as your husband in the end. So again I am proud that you did what you had to ๐Ÿ˜‰

    • Alina October 4, 2015 at 6:05 pm - Reply

      I am really sorry that you had a rough time, dear Corinne! I am happy to bring a smile on your face!

  4. Dknits October 4, 2015 at 11:19 am - Reply

    Oh my God! This post reminded such memories (good and bad!) I had the same experience with a hat as well. I’m so sorry you had to frog the sweater. And I admire you for being able to consider re-knitting a whole man sweater with black yarn.

    • Alina October 4, 2015 at 6:07 pm - Reply

      Oh, my colorful pima cotton is waiting for me in the corner basket to be put into something lovely for myself. But first Flax and black yarn!

  5. Pat October 4, 2015 at 11:41 am - Reply

    I feel your pain. My oldest son is like that. I put my blood, sweat and tears into sewing something for him and I hear “I like it but…”. My girlfriend’s mom is a quilter. She has reached the point that she only makes things for other crafters because they know the work involved in making something. Let your husband know what a lucky man he is. If he were married to me… Never mind, we won’t go there ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Alina October 4, 2015 at 6:08 pm - Reply

      I also think that only crafters can really appreciate handmade! So, my hubby will get another handmade gift only if he turns into a crafter himself ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. Katrine Birkenwasseranhรถhe October 4, 2015 at 12:21 pm - Reply

    Go ahead, throw the ball at him! After that makes you feel better you will have the energy to start all over again, and in the end I’m sure you will both be happier that you frogged the first try. You can do it!

    • Alina October 4, 2015 at 6:09 pm - Reply

      I did throw it at him ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. Zeta October 4, 2015 at 2:08 pm - Reply

    Have been there! Didn’t even bothered making him another size. If he wants, he will lose some weight in order to fit him! Period! You thought your sweet hubby would be different?! My sweet sweet girl! He is a man!

    • Alina October 4, 2015 at 6:10 pm - Reply

      Oh, now I know! ๐Ÿ™‚ As soon as I am finished with Flax, it’s time for 100% selfish knits ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. Tracey October 4, 2015 at 4:40 pm - Reply

    Oh my dear I know your pain well, but I had only knit my husband a pair of socks. I let my Mike pick out the yarn, tell me exactly what he wanted and then when I’m finished he wore them for a little bit and had the never to complain they were too hot!!!! Yep, I no longer knit for him.

    • Alina October 4, 2015 at 6:11 pm - Reply

      What’s wrong with men and hand knit items, seriously?!!

  9. Akiba October 5, 2015 at 1:19 pm - Reply

    I am not a knitter but because you are both dear friends, I had a good laugh. Since my passion is cooking, I have found myself in similar situations with meals I have toiled over, just to be told that it was good, but . . . I wanted to throw my plate but, instead, I ate it myself and thoroughly enjoyed it.

    • Alina October 6, 2015 at 7:53 am - Reply

      You make me laugh, dear Akiba! And I really cannot imagine anybody in the world who wouldn’t love your cooking!

  10. Iris October 5, 2015 at 3:18 pm - Reply

    Throw it at him. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    This post did make me laugh, though, and you know, that fear that I’ll spend so much time knitting something only to D say it’s not quite what he envisioned is just too scary. I’ve never knitted him anything bigger than a hat! ๐Ÿ˜€

    • Alina October 6, 2015 at 7:54 am - Reply

      You are wise, Iris! Stick to the hat knitting and never go further ๐Ÿ™‚

  11. Tien October 7, 2015 at 9:54 pm - Reply

    Aim straight for the face! Just kidding! (not really, LOL!)
    I hope that flax #2 meets with a better ending. I usually just knit hats for my husband because he treats his clothes horribly and my worst nightmare would be to find a hand knitted sweater that I worked so hard on in the dryer looking like big ball of felt.

    • Alina October 8, 2015 at 7:43 am - Reply

      Thank you for the laugh, Tien! ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

  12. Tahnee October 10, 2015 at 2:27 pm - Reply

    Oh no, I really feel your pain!! ๐Ÿ™ I’ve never tried to knit anything for my boyfriend, except for the most boring gray basic ribbed scarf ever, and please remind me never to do so. I don’t think I could stand ripping out an entire sweater like that.

    • Alina October 10, 2015 at 5:41 pm - Reply

      I think the only reason for starting it over is that I can borrow it from him ๐Ÿ™‚

  13. Julie October 12, 2015 at 7:26 pm - Reply

    oh my gosh, that would have drove me crazy, too!! I’ve never knit my husband a sweater. I don’t have any intention of it. I knit him a hat once in a while, but never seem to quite get it right. But then at least it’s a hat, and I can wear it if he doesn’t it.

    • Alina October 13, 2015 at 8:06 am - Reply

      No sweater knitting for my husband will be my #1 rule from now on! ๐Ÿ™‚

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